The magic of ‘bravery’.

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“It’s not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly ;… who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly.”

Quote by Theodore Roosevelt, 1910. The ‘Man in the Arena’ speech.

“Have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become.”

Quote by Steve Jobs.

Hello to you,

As I have recently  been pondering the word bravery, it has appeared for me in many synchronistic ways this week. I have seen it in Instagram posts and heard it in podcasts. What is it to be brave? And why do we feel the need to see ourselves as ‘brave’ when there is no threat to our physical body? We tend to think of bravery as fronting up to a battle… to be placing our life in danger…overcoming fear.

So why is it that we feel so ‘brave’, and are encouraged to be courageous  when we decide to simply follow our dream?…begin something new?…show our true selves?

What is this new kind of battle?

For me, it is one or a combination of the following fears at any given time…

🌟The fear of how we are perceived and consequently, judged, is a major factor. ‘What will people think’ if I steer off course and appear different to what they are comfortable with? The person I, and they, are used to?
🌟The fear of embarrassment. Being on show in front of others if things don’t unfold as we hoped they would.
🌟The fear of others destroying our dreams by saying they are not valid or worthy of our time and attention.
🌟The fear of not gaining the approval of others with the path we have chosen. Especially if we are uncovering a part of ourselves we may have kept hidden.
🌟The fear of ‘I told you so…’

These are all valid, and many I’m sure we all share.

It requires bravery to push through these feelings, past our comfort zones and into the unknown.

There comes a time when we must reclaim the life we were given in this physical form in order to attain and live out our highest purpose.

To move forward, if our pursuit is one of personal evolution, we must refrain from outsourcing our happiness and joy to the opinions of others, and live in alignment with our own truth. Otherwise, we are handing over our power and our life to external sources.

We cannot permit ourselves to become caged in through fear of supposed failure… if someone begins working towards their dream, how can it ever ‘fail’? Things may not eventuate in the manner that we were hoping for, but we can’t always predict things will  work out according to our expectations…there may be a grander plan waiting for us that we are not aware of, with valuable ‘insights’ and ‘lessons’ learnt along the way.

Being BRAVE means we accept the ‘fear of what others will think’ is no longer an option…that to move ahead, we must live according to our own values and create that which brings us joy. Because in doing so, we bring joy to others purely because we become more content within ourselves. We learn after a first baby step forward… that it’s not as scary as we forecast.

This brings such a freedom that must be experienced and then enjoyed. I’m not saying it’s easy, and I’m a constant work in progress too, but with each tiny step towards our dreams, we become a little braver. In time, we will see it as part of a delicious journey we are undertaking.

There comes a time when the torment of not pursuing the endeavours that ignite us becomes too great. To stare down the fear of the judgement…and respond by simply being happier in our own skin is something palpable to others. Let this be the change we really wish for others to notice…

I have a saying, and I’m not sure where it came from, but I’ve used it many times…’close your eyes and go for it.’ Its relevance, to me, means through closing our eyes, we cannot see our fears, the darkness forcing us to go within and deeply feel our passions and desires. We leave our rational mind behind…the one that could talk us out of everything.
From that place, the emotions of feeling the dream becoming reality are too overwhelming to ignore.

By one person daring to be brave, it affords others to take the baby steps necessary for them, so in a way, each of us becomes a leader for others in a beautiful kind of ripple effect.

I have certainly benefitted from those whom I admire leading the way to show me what’s possible, that it’s safe to do so…when those pesky fears were winning the battle…

So together, let’s weave some magic. Let’s be the light that shows the way ahead for others. Let’s be brave. You’re a sheer work of art and truly amazing. Believe IT…feel IT…own IT. ❤

Bravery awards this week to my friends who are lighting the path ahead:
Leni, who has opened her brand new Etsy website this week where she displays her brand of beautiful calligraphy and hand lettered designs.

Louise Brister who has begun her new Facebook page where she shares her gentle spiritual wisdom.
Please find the links to their pages below.🌹

And much gratitude to Brené Brown’s book for opening the discussion about Bravery in the first place, and from where I discovered the opening quote.

https://www.etsy.com/shop/lightofleni
https://www.facebook.com/theinnercoursewithlouisebrister/
Brown, B 2015, Rising Strong, Vermillian, London.

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50 thoughts on “The magic of ‘bravery’.

    1. You’re welcome Martine🌺
      And if you do, I hope you enjoy it too. It’s about being brave enough to embrace our curiosity and create fearlessly. Enjoy your day 🦋💐

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  1. I smiled as I read your post Di, thank you for writing it. Love the quotes you used and also love Brene Brown’s work on this subject. Bravery is something that inspires us all, I see it in my children every day! Thanks again, beautifully written.

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    1. Hello Martine🌺
      Thank you so much for saying hello and leaving your beautiful and encouraging comments. They mean a lot and I’m grateful to you. Yes, Brene is amazing, and so is her friend Elizabeth Gilbert. Her book Big Magic is the best.
      It’s awesome that your children are displaying bravery. I’m really happy they have taken it on. I’m sure you have offered wonderful encouragement to them also 🌹
      Thank you again… I truly appreciate it. Sending my best to you..💐🌟🌟

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  2. Bless you, Di – what a beautiful post! I so love what you wrote about creating what brings us joy. I’m in a spiritual org, where I was ordained as a minister (it’s an alternative super open kind of thing … like the Soul is the Church in which we worship). One of the things we get is a blessing, and the first line of mine is all about GREAT joy.

    I appreciate your blog, and great quotes by Roosevelt and Steve Jobs. Two giants in creating from the heart. Have a blessed week, Di — Debbie

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    1. Hello Debbie🙋
      I cannot tell you how amazing it is to read your kind and encouraging words about my post. I’m new to ‘words’ but not to ‘thoughts’ so to match them up and to see you’ve enjoyed them… well, I’m touched and honoured. Thank you so much. And thank you for sharing your story and about your blessing gift. I’ve received a special blessing with my Reiki as well and I take it seriously as well. Thank you again Debbie, and have a magical week 🌟💜

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    1. Oh my goodness. That’s so special and I’m humbled. Thank you so much, Flying through water… such beautiful encouragement and kindness from you 🌟🌟🌹

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      1. Oh I’m so glad you found my comment, paintdigi. I’ve been having trouble with comments ending up in Spam. 🌟🌺

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      2. What a grand idea. I think I will too as soon as I can work out how. That way, I don’t have to fret about people not receiving a reply from me. I’d be so upset if they thought that. Thank you so very much 🙏🏼🌺🌺

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  3. I feel like bravery is such a tricky thing because we are all so different, and brave to me is no biggie to another and vice versa. But then it is such a mind game, because if something is so hard for you but not for someone else, you really doubt yourself! So your words are really important, as they are a wonderful reminder that we all go through these doubts, and to believe in ourselves and the importance of taking the risk in favor of trusting our intuition. Thank you for that, Di. And again for your support of fellow bloggers/facebookers. So sweet of you. 🙂

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    1. Thank you dear Peggy. Yes, it’s a very subjective thing. But I think the fears may be the common denominators. I appreciate your lovely comments and yes, I enjoy helping promote others following their dreams ❤🌈❤

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      1. Thank you Peggy. It’s just the thing that crops up in my reading and listening as a recurring theme. And speaking for myself too, of course 🌺

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    1. Oh thank you so much, watching the daisies! I’m so touched and if it had the tiniest of value to you, then I’m so content. All the very best to you on taking your next step. I hope to read about it in your future posts perhaps.
      Thank you for your kind words and stopping by to comment. It means a lot to me 🌺🌺

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  4. Wonderful post Di. I love the first quote … it always penetrates deeply when I hear it. You are so on point here. Being brave is another of life’s paradoxes. Stepping out is both risky and scary but also where the opportunity lies to find and own our true self. In a sense, life requires us to separate ourselves from the collective, to be individuals, in order to contribute our unique gifts in a positive way to the collective and become one with it. And this you are doing so beautifully….a shining example of love and connection in action. 👌🌟🙏🌹xo

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    1. Oh dear Carol. You have a beautiful way with words. Thank you so much. And I love your description, to be able to find the opportunity that awaits us. I really appreciate you adding your lovely thoughts here 🙏🏼🌺🌺

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  5. Wonderful Di! I would say for you being brave is taking a leap of faith and starting your blog. How is it going so far? How often do you hope to write? It is so wonderful to see your inspiring work here too! 🙂
    P.S. You should sign up for the “WordPress Daily Post”: Weekly Photo Challenge. It used to be on Fridays but was moved to Wednesdays. It is a great way to connect with new readers and build your audience. You can subscribe to it via email and you will get a reminder of the theme each week. Then you link back to it so other WP bloggers can find you. This week’s is “The Path Taken”. I’m working on mine now.

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    1. Hello dear Nicole.
      Thank you as always for beautiful encouragement and advice. It’s an amazing journey so far and all I want to do is sit and write all the thoughts I’ve held in my heart for the ‘one day if I’m brave enough to start a blog’! I can’t focus on much else yet!
      And that’s a lovely thing to suggest I join. I’ll certainly look into it. By the theme this week, I may have ticked a box both in words and photo. It sounds like a lovely way to meet other bloggers.
      So thank you sincerely Nicole for everything 🌺🌺🙏🏼

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  6. Another brilliant post, Di!! I agree with everything you say! And am living proof of how not to live your life. When I was young and impressionable, my father talked me out of pursuing my first choice of career as an artist (I was quite gifted in my younger days); by telling me I’d end up being a starving artist and that he wouldn’t support me if that was the case! When I changed my mind and told him I wanted to become a teacher instead, he shot that dream down too by saying there were so many teachers in the province of Québec and that I’d never get a job. Instead I completed a BA in Communication Studies and have been working as a legal assistant since 1989. I made sure the mistakes I made by listening to him did not get repeated to my daughters, and have encouraged them to seek out studies and work only in fields that interest them and make them happy above all. Happy to report they are both successful individuals!!

    Thanks for encouraging me to be a better person ❤

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    1. Oh dear Cynthia. Firstly, I want to thank you for stopping by, hopefully with a cuppa we can share across the oceans, and leaving your heartfelt and supportive words. I get what you mean about not doing what you love out of fear. It’s clearly still hurtful and your art is still there in your heart. You said you were quite gifted in your ‘younger’ days… my lovely friend… I am telling you right now you ‘are’ still gifted. Please read Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert. I challenge you to read that book and not pick up your paint brush, trowel, pen or any other tool of your trade. I revised it in an Insta post long before we became friends. On my watch, I’ll not allow you to leave that dream behind.
      Thank you again for being so honest Cynthia 🌺🙏🏼

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      1. Thanks from the bottom of my heart for your support and encouragement, dearest Di. It really means a lot to me. I will definitely check out that book and keep you posted! Funny how just yesterday I was thinking I’d like to take a course to learn PhotoShop….. through you I am learning that anything is possible as long as you set your mind to it. 😉

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      2. Hello beautiful! That’s absolutely my pleasure. Thank you for letting me know. Yes, please do check it out. It will change your life.
        Oh that’s such a wonderful idea to learn PhotoShop. Go for it Cynthia… and if it’s not for you… at least you’ll know and still be the better for following your curiosity.
        I value very much our conversations here. Thank you so much for your amazing support and friendship. It means a lot 🙏🏼💕

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  7. Independent of time and space this post is eternally valuable to one and all. I personally believe, one should always be encouraged to be imperfect, unsuccessful, disliked. As been said success is sum of all the unsuccessful attempts and also success is short lived. Indeed it’s very difficult to shed the fear, but it worth doing it. Love to read your post. Gives assurance and boost.

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    1. Thank you ArtOfMobile for such beautiful insights and reflections after reading my post. I value your words and I am very grateful to you for adding such kindness here 🙏🏼🌺

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    1. Thank you so much to you. I’m not sure if it’s you again dear Cynthia but you are still called ‘someone’. I really appreciate your kindest of comments though 💕🌟🌟

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  8. Hi Di, I’ve recently dusted off Susan Jeffers “Feel the fear and do it anyway” so your post was right on the mark with what I’ve been reading and how I’ve been feeling lately. Stepping out of our comfort zone, facing fears and worries about how we’ll appear if we fail, standing up and being brave are all things I’m working on. Wonderful post that really resonated deeply with me. xo

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    1. Hello dear Miriam. Thank you sincerely, my friend. It’s such a huge and current topic and I’m so touched it resonated. Thank you for letting me know…I really appreciated hearing from you 🙏🏼🌺🌺

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